My friends think I spend too much time with my steady. They don't understand!

Have you been missing out on your CCA practices?
Been seeing less of your friends?
You may have even neglected your friends and your family.
Now that you’re happily attached, of course you are contented to spend every moment with your boyfriend or girlfriend!
However, there are other important relationships in your life which also need time and effort to maintain. While your relationship with your boyfriend/girlfriend is important, it should not overshadow everything else, like your family or friends. If your boyfriend/girlfriend is understanding, it will not be difficult for you to find time for your other friends. It’s about knowing how to maintain a healthy relationship with him/her.
What’s a healthy relationship?
Relationships are always exciting. It makes your heart go aflutter. It sends a rush of joy whenever you hold hands. It makes you feel happy just being with the person you love.
But there is a whole lot more to relationships than just the feel-good euphoria. Relationships should also be about mutual respect, trust, care and so much more.
1. Fairness and equality There should be a balance of power in a relationship. Neither you nor your boyfriend/girlfriend should be controlling each other. You should get to make decisions too, such as where to have dinner or which movie to watch at the cinema.
2. Trust and honesty The foundation of a relationship should not be built upon lies. Be open with each other from the start. Don’t keep secrets. Show that you have confidence and trust in each other.
3. Mutual respect and support Respect each other’s views and feelings, and be there for each other in times of need.
4. Separate identities Even as a couple, you should still be yourself and continue pursuing your own interests. The two of you are separate individuals with your own tastes, opinions, and preferences.
Striking a balance
Talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend. He/she should respect your feelings and understand that you both need to have some private time to do your own things.

Introduce your boyfriend/girlfriend to your buddies. Your boyfriend/girlfriend won’t feel jealous or insecure once he/she gets to know your friends and find out what wonderful people they are.

Organise activities with your friends and include your boyfriend/girlfriend. In fact, you can even invite his/her group of friends to join yours. The more the merrier!

Introduce your boyfriend/girlfriend to your family. This way you can spend time with all the important people in your life, at the same time.
Love yourself too
Sometimes a relationship can turn sour and abusive.
When your boyfriend/girlfriend shows signs of jealousy, it may seem flattering at first but can wear you down after a while. He/she is emotionally abusing you if he/she constantly bullies, humiliates, intimidates or threatens you.
Don’t take abuse in relationships lightly. Talk to someone you trust and seek help. You may still have feelings for your boyfriend/girlfriend, but it’s better to break off ties before you are hurt further.